Dealing with in-laws during the holidays?

[egan]

So I'm excited for Christmas to get here, minus the part where I have to see my husbands mother who absolutely hates me. I live about 20 mins. away from her and haven't seen her in 6 months just because the last time I was around her, she was so rude. She's told me I need to lose weight, tried to tell me I need to limit how much my daughter eats although she's crying and hungry it will make her gain unnecessary weight(um....duh...don't 4 month olds need to gain weight?) and she actually tried to grab her from me and refuse to feed her(which didn't work), and every chance she gets she insults me but only when it's just her and I. She actually tells my husband lies and says she has no idea what I'm talking about when he asks her why she treats me bad. Point is, the woman has made it not only awkward to be around her, but very difficult. And now I have to see her Christmas Eve along with the rest of my husbands family (aunts,uncles,cousins,etc.) and I really don't know how to act/what to say, especially when she brings up how I haven't brought our daughter near her or how I haven't bothered to visit her, because I know she's going to in front of everyone. Someone help! Thanks.