Do you think she just feels comfortable around me or does your actions speak more?

[bearchan]

I've been in love with my best friend for 10 years we knew each other for 12 yrs. I told her how I felt a year ago she was flattered but doesn't feel the same way cause she sees me as a sister. I am a lesbian and she is a confused asexual/bisexual (she told me that). My best friend and I were on a class camping trip together we were staying in a cabin our beds were bunck beds. She slept on top and I was on the bottom. It was really cold our first night I was bundled up on my bed in my sleeping bag like a caterpillar trying to keep myself warm. She and I were talking to each other about whatever suddenly she asked me "If I get really cold tonight I might be going into your bed if you don't mind" I said "um...no don't mind I might not notice because I am a deep sleeper" I laughed. She didn't reply back then I started to change the subject. However she didn't go into my bed that night I was really hoping she will I even dreamed about her going in my bed but I woke up without her in it. Few days later we were heading home on the bus. It was a 4 hr drive back and of course we were sleepy. She was leaning on the window and I was laying my head back on the head rest. 25 mins past and I finally decided to lean myself on her to sleep. But I asked her "hope you don't mind if I use you as a pillow" she replied "I don't care". So I did for a while until my neck was killing me. A hour past and we were close to home.I woke up after her. I said "good we are almost home" she lean her head on me for a while until she got up to stretch. I know friends sometimes cuddle but why would she with me? I have a crush on her but she doesn't like me in that way and it just gets me confused about her feelings to me when she can be touchy feely sometimes.

[scirwode]

I don't think you can read anything into this, a lot of friends are so comfortable with one another that they would do what she was - ie laying on you. It sounds like a nice friendship, she knows how you feel so if she ever decides what she wants you are there, just don't put your life on hold forever.