MEN: Do actions really speak louder?

[bellden]

Okay, so there is this guy which I’ve written about before. He’s older then I and he’s told me that he does like me. Thing is though he’s been acting sort of off lately, but then today he did something that really swept me off my feet kind of didn’t expect him to do it. Regardless here is a question that I posted about the same guy a few months ago.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
Anyways since this was posted we’ve become closer. He told me that he does like me and he does think about me, he would text me all the time and we’d have good conversations but then it sort of died down (like it usually does) what happened was I think he got jealous because he thought I was seeing somebody else and he jumped back into the picture to make sure I didn’t move on yet because he was still interested.
He wants to settle down but he needs time and wants to take things slow. Anyways his texting has slowed down the past few days but today he was different trying to get my attention again when he did see me in person. Today I was having a hard day, just having that feeling of just wanting to cry. So when I was out of class I sat down in the lobby on the bench and called my cousin to vent. I just needed someone to talk to. when I was on the phone with her, I just cried, it wasn’t sobbing just tears falling down my eyes. Anyways, when the elevator door opened he was coming outside for a cigarette with a few other people who work at the college. My teacher noticed me first and asked me if I was okay, and all I said was “im fine…” but when I noticed he was with him I got all nervous…I didn’t want him to see me cry!
When he was in mid sentence he stopped, even stopped walking and looked at me but because of the situation he just went outside with the rest of the people. Because I was on the phone I didn’t get the text message that he sent me right away but when he came back inside he came towards me and ran his hand through my hair, starting at my forehead. brushed it back and then sat down next to me and gave me a hug, engulfing me in his arms. When he went back upstairs I checked the text and it said “you ok kiddo?” its my nickname.
He texted me and said “I’m not going to pry.”
And I told him I’d tell him what was wrong…
Im just surprised…does what he did means he cares about me.

[cadby]

He cares. A lot. But the age difference worries him.

[collyer]

i did that to girls before and i the ones i did that i cared about them and still do lol hope this answered the question thanks for answering mine!

[rushford79]

Yeah he cares, but i think he sees you as a daughter more then a gf

[hillocke]

he seems protective over you, but if the age gap is really big I think he might just be looking at you as a guardian not as a possible intimate friend.

[iomar]

Yes, he cares. Whether he still likes you "like that" or not, I can't say. How much is the age difference? Not a good sign that he calls you kiddo, but then again, he DID run his hand through your hair - which unless a person is very touchy, is rarely a gesture that you would perform on just a friend or a "kiddo".
My guess? He's probably attracted to you and/or likes you, but is holding himself back because he feels it is inappropriate because of the age difference, which is why he's been distancing himself. However, men are suckers for a damsel in distress (studies have proven they feel brain pain when a girl cries and usually feel like they have to fix it), and when he saw you upset he couldn't help but comfort you.

[wynn]

Yes he cares... if not he wouldnt have texted you... maybe he did that becasue he is shy and then he got confident and went and hugged you.. Look if you really like him send him some signs that you do.. see how he reacts.. if he likes you then he will make his move.. just put yourself out there not too much though. Good luck and thanks for answering my question =)

[akule76]

he seems to definately care but i think its more like a little sister i've had the same issue