How can I get my girlfriends family to accept me?

by **sceley** » Sat Oct 29, 2011 8:20 pm

I cook at a restaurant and I've been dating one of the servers there for 3 months. Her parents, her Dad especially has a real problem with our relationship because I'm a little bit older than her. I'm 34 and she's 16. But I've explained to him on more than one occasion that we live in west virginia and here the age of consent is 16. He even called the cops on me and the cop told him he wished he could arrest me but legally we're within the law so I don't know what her Dad's hangup is.
I want to ask her to marry me, she's been dropping hints that she wants me to anyway, and I thought her Dad would respect me if I asked his permission to marry her man to man. I asked him last night though and he freaked out, put me in a headlock and told me to leave his daughter alone. I'm still going to ask her but I want to have her family's support on this, what can I do???

by **jomei69** » Sat Oct 29, 2011 8:21 pm

dude, stop and look for someone your age please. 16 is wayyyyy too young and if i had a daughter id be distraught too

by oz » Sat Oct 29, 2011 8:30 pm

Are you serious? I hope you are a troll. Shame you don't live in a State where what you are doing is seen for what it is - a grown man encouraging and having a romantic relationship with a child.

by **teyo** » Sat Oct 29, 2011 8:34 pm

he feels its morally wrong you cant do anything about that, let the haters hate.
answer mine??
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111009062030AABiGpi

by **jamilah38** » Sat Oct 29, 2011 8:38 pm

Your 34..and she's 16. If I was her father I'd be pretty pissed off too.

by **luther** » Sat Oct 29, 2011 8:55 pm

You sound like a confused peado to me :D Your way over half her age you perv!!!

by **aingeni** » Sat Oct 29, 2011 8:57 pm

"a little bit older than her"?? you're over half her age!

by **achimelech51** » Sat Oct 29, 2011 9:01 pm

You should first go to a therapist, and so should your"girlfriend"

you should not be attracted to a 16 year old at your age, and she is honestly not old enough to realize what is good for her. She may think she knows what she wants, but she doesn't and she will regret marrying you.

You are new, exciting, more mature than guys she knows, she feels she can trust you, and maybe you have genuine feelings for her and do love her, but she deserves someone who she can grow with and share life experiences, not with someone who already knows and won't be able to do certain things by the time she wants to.

Even if you do love her, especially if you do, you should let her go. I was 16 once, everything i thought i knew and loved, i found out later it was not all right, i regret some things, and i just thik that if you really love her, either let her go, or prove to her and her parents you are going to follow this through right, wait til she is 18 to ask her to marry you even if you're "both ready" now (no one is ready to marry at 16 and not regret it) and after a few years( not 3 months) everyone will be able to see your true feelings, one way or the other.

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