I want to ruin my cousin's life. How do I go about doing this?

by **darvell** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 5:36 am

I know you are probably thinking that I need professional help and to grow up but I truely hate my cousin (shes 19) but I especially hate her mother even more. We are forever estranged because of problems that happened between her mother and my dad years ago. Years later they contact me on facebook and so I just forgave them for whatever happened between them in the past and to let things go but later on they all deleted me and they don't seem to want to have anything to do with me when I message them (I get no response). My cousin (19) and her manager had reported me to the police for showing up at her workplace to want to talk to her about family things and the cops told me she wants nothing to do with me. Because of my Asperger syndrome, I never got arrested but I did get heck from my parents. Eventually she changed to a different workplace because of me. I'm so livid right now to the point where I wish to go down to the police station to make a report of defamation of character against my cousin (19) plus sexual molestation against her mother (which I would accuse her mother of doing to me at 6 years old) even though its not actually true.

I know the sexual molestation charge against her mother will greatly ruin her life (give her a bad reputation, lose her husband hopefully) because it would be illegal for her to molest me when I was a 6 year old boy many years ago. I know her mother does not have much money or to even be able to afford a lawyer. I just want to send out the message to them that it was very wrong for my 19 year old cousin to call the cops on me when I did nothing illegal. Its been bugging me for months and I'm still angry. Is this a good idea for me to go to the police to make a report on them?

by **emilek17** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 5:38 am

Yup go for it revenge is sweet, i hope i did the right thing by saying this but wow, i cant belive that they did that!!!!!!!!!!!!

by **tiernan** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 5:46 am

grow up.

by **jomei69** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 5:48 am

Calm your **** and move on dude....forget about it>.> don't ruin their lives! How selfish are you?! Grow up! Your terrible! Why would you wanna hurt em and accuse em of something thy didnt happen?! And also of they make you take a lie detector test they'll find out you're a liar and you will be charged for fraud....move on, it's best for you

by **taillefer** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 5:57 am

What I think for you is to focus on people that care for you and forget about those who don't! Life is too short to be kipping losers on your mind! Just move on with your life and forget about them!

by **kirklin** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 6:05 am

A more intelligent solution or at least a smooth over.Would be to write a letter stating that bad times between her mom and your dad should stay between them.However with this revenge tactic your all better off not dealing with it and stay apart.That's sad state of affairs.To much tension to deal with closed minds.

by **jarel** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 6:08 am

A more intelligent solution or at least a smooth over.Would be to write a letter stating that bad times between her mom and your dad should stay between them.However with this revenge tactic your all better off not dealing with it and stay apart.That's sad state of affairs.To much tension to deal with closed minds.

I really don't think you should report her to the police because:
1) you could get caught with making a false accusation and get in trouble.
2) in the future you might come to regret your descision.
And you haven't really sat down to talk about this with the other family. Seriously consider the consequences and take precautions before making any crazy choices!
Hope I helped, good luck in the future :)

by **teithi71** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 6:16 am

Wow!! If we can't trust our families, who can we trust??

by **zackary42** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 6:25 am

Well I have a dad who just walked out on my mom and sister... He doesn't want anything to do with his first and only granddaughter (my daughter) and so I know what you mean when you really don't want to take crap any more. But here's the deal. Don't do something YOU will regret... Or give them real room to have something against you. It was wrong what they did but doing something and lying about the past especially something like sexual molestation would only ruin your conscience. I have friends with aspergers... You're not stupid . people with aspergers are geniuses. So think about the big picture. It's their loss. Don't let them win by making their crap ruin you. Overcome it!

by **abisha** » Mon Dec 26, 2011 6:34 am

No, it is not a good idea to make a report against them.

Never lie about something as serious as child molestation.

You want to report your cousin for defamation of your character, yet you plan on ruining her mother's life in such a way? That is TRULY defamation of character. Obviously your family has its drama and differences, just let them go. You don't need them. You weren't arrested, no charges were filed against you. How exactly is that grounds for defamation of your character? You can try to write a letter to them apologizing about the misunderstanding at her workplace and let them know you meant no harm. It sounds pretty drastic to call the police but then again, we weren't there to see what really happened. Let them know you are sorry and ask why they took it to that level. Don't go as far as to (illegally) file false charges against them. That will eventually get YOU into trouble. They didn't ruin your life, so don't go trying to destroy theirs. They have their own problems and you do not have to deal with them. If they bother you so much, never talk to them again and move on with your life. :) Good luck.

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