My cousins trying to ruin my life...please help me?

[orlondo100]

long story short....my cousin was really hard off...she has 2 kids and her and her b/f lost their apartment about 8 months ago...
i live with my sister in a big house so me and my sis decided to let her move in for the time being til she got on her feet...

well she never looked for a job, broke up with her boyfriend who was paying the bills almost immediately after she moved in...started dating random guys (even claiming to fall in love with TWO guys off of the internet from different states...all in 1 month time)

im a professional entertainer (trying to get on my feet financially, as best as i can)
well i ended up getting her a job where i work...
needless to say theres alot of drama there..

for some reason after she started working i wasnt making any money on the nights shed work with me....id still make my normal paycheck when she wasnt...but it was drastically reduced 50-90% if she was there...

i just found out that she had been lying about me to the clients, defaming my character.

we had a huge blow out over it....i cried alot....thats my cousin..my flesh and blood and she utterly betrayed me..

well she was just irate...wasnt hurt...wasnt even bothered....she just wanted to kill me for calling her out on it..

so that night i went home and told my sister all the things i had been covering up for her about.....the fact that she sneaks out every night to go to the bar...that she doesnt watch her kids (i do) when my sisters at work..

i kept alot of things at bay..but i told them the basic truth...cuz she was trying to turn my sister away from me


this girl had no friends so i introduced her to mine....and now shes lying to them...lying about me on facebook....utterly defaming my character....

the irrational angry side of me wants to flame this b*tch right back....
difference is i`d just have to tell the truth..
but i still love her...

this has been going on for a week now...every day new things being posted about how i dont take care of my daughter,(total bs) that im with a new guy every night (i stay home all the time, except for fridays which is poker night)

now yes..im not an angel...i drink on occasion...and i try to date..but its not a priority to me..

but this girl makes britney spears in her bipolar episode look MILD...

what can i do to stop this from getting worse?

talking to her is apparently not an option...
my sister doesnt want to kick her out because she thinks its unfair....
and ive now lost just about every single friend i had because they actually believe what shes saying!

i have one friend left who knows what she did....because she told the whole town about his personal business( we had dated)

hes the only one that trusts or even cares about me anymore..

ive never EVER thought once about giving up.....taking the easy way out...
but im starting to feel so hopeless...

its like she doesnt even care that shes ruining my life....shes enjoying it...

i was thinking maybe a defamation lawsuit....i dont care that she related...apparently blood means nothing to her...

i just dont know anymore...please..some advice

[gowan]

hi i think you should move somewhere else for awhile. she is destroying your life the earlier you get that in your head the better whether cousin or not. because at the end you are the looser . explain the truth to you friends if they do not believe move on . this is also a prove to show they were not honest friends if they were they wouldn`t have believed in your cousin and she would have stoped ere long.

[deangelo51]

it sounds like she is jealous of you or have some type of problem with you to do this clearly you can see that being family means nothing to her. can you move away from her or get another job away from her where people don't know you and don't let anyone know where you work. you are not running away you are just getting away from her. since you live with your sister can't you talk to her and make her see what your cousin is doing to you. you are sisters she need to step in and see what is wronmg with your cousin she can't be against you too. sounds like you need your own place if you can afford it and save you some money and get away from her shes trouble. does your sister have any problems with her? whatever you do don't fight with her because that will make it worst. too bad that you can't pack up and go live somewher else.