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[treasigh]

me and my mother in law have had a very complex relationship ever since I became pregnant with my son (he is now 8 months). She was the main source of stress for me throughout the entire pregnancy and when I told her I didn't want her to be in the delivery room she said some particularly nasty things about myself and my family, my husband would not stand up to her so I was left to fight it on my own. The first week after our son was born we said we did not want visitors to our house to give us time to bond as a family, she was spiteful and bitter about this and called numerous times a day to complain to my husband about me. Now she is visiting most days of the week (she has no job), she feeds and washes my son without my permission and clings to him constantly. Last week she was holding him all afternoon, and when I went to take him off of her she insisted that he was "too tired" for any more cuddles and she would take him to bed, at this point I because very upset and told her that she needs to accept the fact that me, my son and my husband are a family of our own now and its not her place to boss any of us about any more. I have always bit my tongue with her and have done nothing but be reasonable but my tolerance is now wearing thin. I suffered with mental health problems in the past and she is now saying to her relatives and my husband that this makes me an unfit mother, so she should look after him a lot of the time. I am at a complete loss on what to do, I don't want to have to be mean and tell her that she is no longer welcome at our house and can no longer see our son without my permission, but I don't know what else to do. I have been so upset that even my mother has offered to talk to her but I don't think that is appropriate.

[herald]

I think you SHOULD tell you evil mother-in-law that she needs to not talk about you the way she does.

I think you should talk with her and ask her why she treats you the way she does. If she gives a bad/dumb/unhelpful answer I would cross the line and not allow her to come over to your house for a while.

Try and work things out with her, maybe she has a reason for being so bitter.

Good Luck

[yehudi]

I think you SHOULD tell you evil mother-in-law that she needs to not talk about you the way she does.

I think you should talk with her and ask her why she treats you the way she does. If she gives a bad/dumb/unhelpful answer I would cross the line and not allow her to come over to your house for a while.

Try and work things out with her, maybe she has a reason for being so bitter.

Good Luck

[vaiveatoish]

Yeah she sounds pretty overbearing .. ( To put it nicely) .. If your husband isn't going to put his foot down with her, it is your place to. You have perfect right to explain to her that you are the mother and you will cuddle him when you want, you will feed him, you will put him to bed and that if she doesn't want to accept the boundaries you put in place she is no longer going to be welcome in your home. I wouldn't use it as a threat, I would let her know that that's the last thing you want to have to do but if she continues with the way she's acting, she's not going to leave you with much choice.