Please help! My mom is in an abusive relationship!?

[galvin]

She has been with this guy a little over a year. In March he was at my sister and brother in law's house and him and my sister got arguing over what a POS he is and my brotherinlaw made him leave, he came back about 20 minutes later yelling in my mom's face so my brotherinlaw kind of stepped in front of my mom, never touched my mom's boyfriend or anything and my mom's boyfriend broke a coffee mug over my brotherinlaws head. Well she said she was done with him then. They kissed and made up 2 days later and were back together. Well 2 nights ago him and my mom got in to it and he punched her and now she's back at my sister's house. My sister is furious with her but she's letting her stay because she has nowhere to go. She's already planning on getting back with him! What can we do to wake her up? Talking to her is like talking to the wall, it does no good. Should we tell her if she goes back to him to never talk to us again? We're so sick of this, every time they argue here she comes running to my sister's house and my sister has kids, she has to make room, it's inconvenient for her to be there but my sister makes room anyway because she loves her but we've had enough. Even if this guy does go get help, he's already done enough damage to this family. There's a lot more stuff he's done but i don't want to get in to all that i just need some advice on what to do with mom?

[erwin]

you need to explain to your mom that its dangerous to stay with him. i should know i grew up with an abusive father and its not safe. your mom needs to realize that if he hit her once he will keep on doing it and she needs to think of her family first.
when my mom left my father i was 9 years old, im 16 years old now and still to this day i remember all the things my father did to her and i ended up with anger issues.
tell your mom she needs to stay away from him because of the fact that it can mess not only her up but her kids two.

[lorimar]

Exactly what you said "tell her never talk to you again if she takes him back". There's nothing you can do to change her mind. She has to see it for herself and leave him on her own. She has grandkids she has to think of also. How will your mother feel if he goes to your sister's house and he hurts her kids? I was in an abusive relationship for three years. I finally got out the second this guy hit my three month old baby. For years people tried to get me out of the relationship but nothing worked. Your sister and you have to have a serious talk with your mother and tell her that if she goes back to the women beater to never talk to you guys again. Tell her she only has one life to live and why not live it happily?

[cleirach70]

Poison his food with bleach and hope hope for the best

[caomh]

Call the police on him, but you have to make sure your mother is prepared to lay charges on this dipshit.