What do you do when your in-laws have no respect for you and your family?

by **delron72** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 1:16 am

Last year I gave birth to our first child. Here is when the problem starts: My mother-in-law is a very opinionated women. At three months old we let her watch our daughter. When I came back to pick her up, she told me she was feeding her nothing but water. I know that over 20 years ago giving water was okay, but here in 2012 they don't advise we give water because formula has improved and, has all the vitamins she'll need. We told his mother that we don't give her water. She said it was fine and ignored us. 3 months later she did it again. Once again we told her not to do that. My sister-in-law watched our daughter at 2 and a half months for a few hours. This was right after Christmas, and at Christmas the discussion of letting your baby sleep with you got brought up, and I told her that I never slept with my daughter and I don't think it's safe. With that, we come to pick her up from my sister-in-law's to find that she was on the couch sleeping with my daughter on top of her chest! Thanks for disrespecting me! Recently, what has set me over the top was my mother-in-law. She had a smirnoff bottle and told my sister-in-law to give it to my daughter for her to chew on. I said no, my husband said no, and his grandma said no. She goes "Oh, it's fine! I gave my kids rum when they were teething and they're just fine! It won't hurt her!" My husband and his grandma, yet again, said no because it wasn't washed out the right way. Still, she urges my sister-in-law to give it to her, and she did. Thankfully, his grandma pulled it away and said no.

I know that his mother and sister have kids and that they are capable of raising kids. But, she is my daughter and when I say no, I mean no. It's up to me how I want to raise her, and they shouldn't keep disrespecting me and ignoring what I say just because I'm a new mom. My daughter is almost a year old and I don't work, so I'm with her 24/7.. I know her better than anyone, and I don't need his family treating me like this.

My question is, how do I go about confronting them? Nothing I've done has worked! I'm at the point that I don't want my daughter going to his family's houses because they don't listen. Should I just ignore it because my little girl is still a baby, or should I stand up for myself? This is driving me insane!

Please, only nice comments. I don't need any rude comments from people who don't understand.

by **sampson** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 1:23 am

Simple. Don't let them watch your child anymore. When you need to go out, hire a babysitter.

by **wethrby** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 1:30 am

Hi well simply said if it bothers u to such an extent for both of u ,have someone responsible to look after her OR crack a wobbly and tell them u want it ur way and whilst they will disagree DEMAND they conform giving dirty booze bottles to suck never heard worse, STAND UP N BE COUNTED I'm sure hubby will back u up,
See they are treating u like a dumb dora with NO RESPECT time to give them a REALITY CHECK OK ?

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