Do you think his family was being rude?

[hampton83]

So yesterday my bf and I went out for lunch for his birthday and it was my very first time meeting his brother and sister-in-law. During the whole time, neither or them really asked me questions about myself...they were laughing and talking amongst themselves and bringing up inside jokes. I tried making conversation every now and then, but it seemed like they weren't really interested. I felt a little stupid and felt like they didn't care about me all that much....do you think they acted inappropriately or should I just lighten up? When I talked to my bf about it later, he got mad at told me stop being a whiney c***.

[gideon]

they're probably just shy around you. That's what little kids do in public situations, talk to each other.

[delron]

I personally would be a little offened too but i dont think it you should ruin you and your bfs relationship.

[merla15]

Your bf actually called you a "whiney c***"? Get a new boyfriend.

[treasigh]

I don't think they were being intentionally rude, but it would have been nice to include you more. By the way, if I had a boyfriend who called me that after I talked to him about something that bothered me, we wouldn't be boyfriend/girlfriend no more.

[modraed]

Well I would say they just feel shy around you or feel awkward around you because they dont know you to well. Just give it some time and ask your boyfriend for some of their likes and dislikes. Give it time and you'll get to know them.

[larry]

your boyfriend was the really rude one! but yes they were being a little rude but maybe they think that was a time to talk to their " brother" or "brother in law" and not the time to get to to their " brother" or "brother in law" 's girlfriend. You get what im saying :)

[starling]

maybe they are a kind of people who don't adapt quickly for new people, that is very normal, most of people are like this, i think... cause i am not..

[urian27]

First of all, your bf's reaction to your concern is totally inappropriate!! You're concerned that his family doesn't like you or isn't interested in you, so your bf should definitely be concerned about that! In my opinion a good relationship with your significant other's family is kinda important for your relationship. If your bf doesn't care what his family thinks of you/ what you think of his family, he's being kind of a douche. As for the family, it could have been a coincidence that they brought up inside jokes, and it's natural to feel a bit out of place when you're the newbie in a family situation. I recently attended my bf's brother's 18th birthday, and for me it was a stressful night, a lot of his family was there and apparently his Nanny had been dying to meet me, so I really felt the pressure. But any feelings I had of unease or being out of place I just put down to not really knowing the family that well! So I would just give it some time, and make the effort to get to know the family members, if they don't bother with you then that's not your fault, it's theirs. And your bf should definitely care about that. And if he truly cares for you, he would never call you a whiney c*** in ANY situation. You do not need to put up with that bullshit! And you want nothing to do with him or his family!

[olivecooper]

Some people have a reserved nature might be that is a reason they did not talk to you much. Meet them for few more times and if there is the same situation again then come to any conclusion.