My family is being very rude and childish?

[symington]

My sister is mad at me because I did not "take her side" in a situation. She's 28 and I'm 26 years old, and I think its childish to take sides. However, I believe that looking at everyones point of view is important. Heres the situation: My best friend decided to get in touch with my sister in law instead of my sister. My sister in law (which I don't have a problem with) told her that she didn't know if my sister was going to throw the bachelorette party for me or not. My sister called me and was going off about my sister in law and calling her a b**** so I tried to create a solution for the problem by saying that they did not have to throw the bachelorette party for me if it was going to be too stressful. Apparently my sister thought I was trying to take my sister in laws and best friends side by saying that. I don't see where I did that, I was just trying to create a solution. My sister is really mad that my best friend called our sister in law and not her. So First question: Was that a valid reason to be angry at someone???? In addition, my mom asked me about the situation and tried to mediate. But every time something is wrong and I try to give my side of the story my mom always brings my fiance into by saying "I don't know what that boy is saying to you". I expressed to her that its very disrespectful and she always says he has to earn her respect. I think this is very direspectful because my fiance has never done or said anything disrespectful to anyone in my family. Second question: How do I get my mom to see that bringing him into the conversation is not right?

[ludano17]

My sister is mad at me because I did not "take her side" in a situation. She's 28 and I'm 26 years old, and I think its childish to take sides. However, I believe that looking at everyones point of view is important. Heres the situation: My best friend decided to get in touch with my sister in law instead of my sister. My sister in law (which I don't have a problem with) told her that she didn't know if my sister was going to throw the bachelorette party for me or not. My sister called me and was going off about my sister in law and calling her a b**** so I tried to create a solution for the problem by saying that they did not have to throw the bachelorette party for me if it was going to be too stressful. Apparently my sister thought I was trying to take my sister in laws and best friends side by saying that. I don't see where I did that, I was just trying to create a solution. My sister is really mad that my best friend called our sister in law and not her. So First question: Was that a valid reason to be angry at someone???? In addition, my mom asked me about the situation and tried to mediate. But every time something is wrong and I try to give my side of the story my mom always brings my fiance into by saying "I don't know what that boy is saying to you". I expressed to her that its very disrespectful and she always says he has to earn her respect. I think this is very direspectful because my fiance has never done or said anything disrespectful to anyone in my family. Second question: How do I get my mom to see that bringing him into the conversation is not right?

it was a good reason to be mad at someone i would be....answer mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=An2nj9lPjGexVzre7WABL3fty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20120604065308AAA91WN

[max]

Your sister is just jealous of you let your sisteinlaw and best friend set up the party.
Sister sets up and it will all go wrong, guarantted.
There is no way to try to find a solution because no matter what you do your sister
will be angry about it, my brother is just like that angry over what I have accomplished.
You can't feel guilty over this, you have your party and your wedding, then you
don't have to live in the same house with her or Mom again, be grateful!
You will have your own house with your own rules, and love the man you are marrying
with your whole heart because I can see they both don't like him but that is their issue.