Paternity

[aralt34]

My ex and I were together 8 1/2 years, never married and have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old son. My ex is not on his birth certificate because he thought he would automatically pay child support and since we were living together @ the time, it seemed silly. Before we were together, he had 1 child, and he and his ex had worked out visitation on their own until she was 4. When she filed for child support, he walked away from his daughter. I recently found out in the last 2 years, my ex was with 5 different women (which is why he's now the ex) and I also found out he had 3 kids before we were together (not just the one) and has 2 more kids, other than my son, since we've been together (so a total of SIX kids with SIX DIFFERENT WOMEN). Since I kicked him out in June, he lives with his newest girlfriend and child "so I don't have to pay child support or daycare" and barely sees our son (couldn't even make it to the hospital when our son had surgery)I recently applied for medical assistance and daycare assistance so I can go back to school for my doctorate in child psychology. In order to get assistance, I have to go though the whole child support thing, which is fine ? not that I?ll get much $ cuz of all his other kids, but anyway? he got served this weekend for a court date to establish paternity. He said he?s going to bring up visitation, but when I filled out paperwork to go ahead with this, the county attorney guy asked about visitation and I chose the option for my ex and me to agree on it on our own without having to go to court. The county attorney guy also said I don?t need an attorney.My ex also said if he can?t get visitation on his terms he doesn?t want to see my son @ all (which I think would be best) I think the only reason he wants to get visitation is to be a thorn in my side. He has proved time and time again he doesn?t care about my son, and has even said his baseball cards are more important to him that our son.Do I need an attorney? Any clue on what to expect?

[Jerrin]

This guy, accordiong to you, has 6 kids with 6 different women. How much CS do you expect you are going to get? Probably very little if any at all and that is if he even pays. Going on gov't assistance probably is not worth all this. I would really reconsider getting Dad identified as the father here.

[Aescwine]

I'm not as concerned with getting child support as I am about him getting visitation.He has told me (and I have documentation in email) that he wishes our son was never born and he wants nothing to do with him.The only reason he wants to try for visitation, is to be a thorn in my side.

[Etlelooaat]

I'm not worried about how much I'll get for child support, but I need to file for CS in order to get medical assistance, daycare asst and all that while I'm back in school.My concern is that my loser ex might actually get visitation, unsupervised and prance a string of whores through my sons life.

[Shaddock]

Yep he might thats why I wonder why you are doing this. Lots of single moms do it without help. You might have to put off going back to school until you can earn a living. Start calling around, with family members if you have any and see if anyone can help you with daycare. If you work full time you can get insurance with a job. You might have to cut back your school hours or post pone school until you have been at a job. Look at it this way, many employers also offer tuition reimbursement as well. Going on gov't assistance is not without its drawbacks. You are probably going to have to get a job of some sort. Being a single mom and not working is usually not an option, especially when you have an idiot for a father that wants rights to the child.

[Kacey]

If you file for any sort of gov't assistance and child support, paternity will need to be established AND he will have a right to support. You had a child with a deadbeat who does not care so if I were you, I would avoid filing for any help if I could. Otherwise yes he can try and make your life miserable anyways. Once you go on gov't assistance that changes everything. If you have a degree, I would see what employment I could get right now and do what I could without having any sort of help. Right now he has no rights and that will change once paternity gets proven. So think about if the headache this guy is going to give you is worth getting some help for child care. You can find reasonable cost daycare if you look around and you seem educated so you probably are very employable and could probably get a hood paying job.

[Brunon]

You wonder why I am returning to college? To higher my entire life and my kids. That needs to be very obvious.My boy and that I live with my parents, and so I have no lease/mortgage, mobile phone, resources. I've attempted for that previous 8 years to function and that Iam not getting everywhere. The very best work I really could get was producing only over 00 per month and spending 0 per month in daycare - that will be the reduced end below. I had been likely to need to make an application for help anyhow and my only expenses are DAYCARE, gasoline, food, apparel and diapers for my boy. I can not afford to reside by myself and I can not actually get subsidized property until I additionally "work with kid support." And I truly can not purchase lease telephone etc about the 0 I've quit after daycare bills.I do not understand your geographical area that individuals without some university training may help themselves along with a kid WITHOUT obtaining help, but below, my greatest, my ONLY choice would be to get assistance while returning to college to ensure that after Iam done I may help my-self and my son.

[Montagu]

Yes, I'd get a lawyer anyhow! I'd never depend on something anex claims and honestly he should not depend on whatever you state. No offence for you. I am unsure how child-support is there. I understand in Al it is somewhat first-come first-serve. That seems bad-but it's accurate. After I got my boyis dad to courtroom they questioned if he's spending on his additional two kids and he explained no, (she is a lawyer), therefore today if she was to return and attempt for child-support the numbers could be reduced on her since it may display he's currently spending CS and it'll move reduce his revenue amt and she'll get less money then. Our CS wouldn't be decreased due to it. Did which make any sence? Anyhow. . . Usually before you could possibly get help paternity needs to be confirmed after which child-support put in position before they'll matter any type of help you. If you should be taking a doctorate what's your four-year diploma in. you have to obtain a work utilizing that in the place of hovering about the government for aid. Having a diploma they might actually let you know that and let you know no for almost any help. I will inform you within Al they'd inform you, to obtain a work plus they may help you for 6-12 weeks but that might be for the kid and never you. Should you get daycare help I'd be cautious where you place your youngster. Not all daycares consider government issued inspections for daycare plus they do not need to. It's often much lowere then your heading price. In Al the government just gives out 68.00 per week from newborn to age 5. The standard daycare cost has ended 100.00The lawyer you spoke to stated you did not require one? If ever there's child-support and-or visitation to become determined you'll need a lawyer. It requires to become positioned using the surfaces just in case anything will come up. Whether it's through their state or personal. Did you-go through DHR? Often should you undergo DHR they've nothing to complete wioth visitation only CS. (Within Al that's how it's) should you obtain a condition attoney through the Bar Association subsequently that's different.