Why does my future mother in law hate me?

by **treasigh** » Tue Dec 20, 2011 11:15 pm

My fiance's mother is seriously disturbed or crazy. She went off on him because we moved in together in June, saying he promised to never leave her blah blah blah. He promised her that when he was 5 and his parents were going through a divorce. So anyway she started having her friends stalk our wedding website, LinkedIn accounts, and facebook. We have not seen or spoken to her since June. She has talked bad about him and me to everyone she knows. She said she hoped we could never have children and I am barren. She has also called me a b*tch and a wh*re which isn't true at all. I love my fiance and would never cheat on him or anything like that. I am a graduate of a Master's program and I feel I am a good person. She has been cruel to him since childhood and told him he was worthless and was jealous of him when he graduated college. She has told people his dad bought my engagement ring because he won't work and he lives off his dad and that isn't true. We both work very hard and are buying our first home. It is absolutely ridiculous what she puts him through. HE is a wonderful person and I don't know why she treats him this way.She didn't try to call him on his birthday in October or on Thanksgiving. She only has talked bad and never tried to apologize or talk to him. Well now his sister is mad at her and not talking to her and all of a sudden she is calling him wanting us to come over for Christmas because she got us "presents". She even has asked his grandmother to "guilt" us into coming because she will be "all alone." I refuse to be around this evil evil woman but told my fiance he can go if he wants, I won't keep him from his family if he wants to go. He said he doesn't want anything to do with her because all she ever does is hurt him. I kind of feel bad about her being alone on Christmas, but it is her own fault. My question I guess isn't if we should go see her but if I should feel bad if he doesn't go see her.

by **galvin** » Tue Dec 20, 2011 11:23 pm

This is just coming from my point of view but i feel that she has been trying to make him feel so crappy about himself so that he would start to doubt himself and make him feel like comming back to her is the only way to stop the doubt. or at least that's what i think she was trying to do in the beggining. personnely i feel sorry for him and that he had to go through that his whole life. also if she is alone on christmas she onl has herself to blame, because of how she has treated everyone around her. i am sorry if this sounds cold hearted but it's just my point of view. btw i hope u 2 have a wonderful life together.

by **luther** » Tue Dec 20, 2011 11:29 pm

Jealousy

by **artzai** » Tue Dec 20, 2011 11:35 pm

inlaws are destined to hate you

by **cleirach70** » Tue Dec 20, 2011 11:36 pm

Feel bad but its her way of manipulating you both. If you truly believe she is evil than don't go. You should definitely take your fiances first answer on not wanting to go, unless he really wants to. Send a card, she'll get over it. Maybe she is starting to realize how rotten she's been.

by **vohkinne** » Tue Dec 20, 2011 11:40 pm

She hates you , because for her you are stealing her soon ...

You are not wrong at all , but she will never understand this , I know it's sad she's going to be alone for christmas , but she also has other relatives , right ?
If her soon wants to visit her then that's ok , if you want to go wish her merry christmas is ok , it's nice to show her you don't feel the same way about her , she probably won't stop hating you anyway lol...

Don't worry , live your life with him , and be happy together , wish you the best

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