Should my mother in law use my bathroom withou asking?

[lifton]

Honestly i think your over reacting especially since its on vacation. Staying with a bunch of people can get overwhelming at first but just try and suck it up and have a good vacation. She probably thought nothing of it when she walked into there i will wonder off and not realize where i am going when the phone is stuck on my ear. I wouldnt mention anything else about it and tell her your sorry for over reacting but you just felt like she should have asked before she entered the bathroom because of privacy.

[max]

*smile* take a deep breath and politely let her know 'Her' bathroom is down the hall.

No more heads up, just let her know you like your privacy and have earned the right to have some.

[thacher]

I am going to guess that you have not been married very long. And that you have had limited intimate interaction with your mother in law. I don't believe this is a bathroom issue but a control issue. For many years she was your husbands mother, suddenly she is not, at least it's not the same. It is her maternal instincts and she may not even be aware of it. She does not need to be in any bathroom to talk on the phone. Subconciously she feels that you have taken her place and now she is resisting by occupying your space. Be firm but polite, do not negotiate, put her out of your bathroom. Give her time to adjust, there may have already been some time, but not as intimate as being under the same roof. Let her have her control in the kitchen, maybe she will be weaned off this. Just consider the powerful motherly instincts you feel for your own child and pain of giving it up one day to his/her spouse. It is not easy and it stirs deep emotions and hidden instinctual behavior. It takes time to adjust. Comfort her by demonstrating your ability to make your husband happy. Once she is satisfied that he is in good hands she will relax and back off.

[amdt57]

Since there is another washroom available and since she likes to camp out I agree she should use the hallway bathroom.

[colum]

You're on vacation...it's not anyones home...why let it become an issue??? Go about your business and let the woman use whatever bathroom she wants (if she's in there and you need something of yours, go in and get it...if she fusses, remind her that your things are in that bathroom because it's attached to the room in which you are staying)...

Don't allow your annoyance with her stir up issues for everyone...enjoy your vacation...

[fenwick]

You did all of the leg work? Are you all paying equal shares of the vacation house? I assume by "leg work" you mean that you made a phone call or booked it online?

"I decided that since I did all the leg work that I (husband and infant) will take the master BR with bath."

Sounds like you need to learn how to share especially in an area that is not yours to claim.