What can I do about my Mother - the paranoid schizophrenic?

[fitche]

I love my mother. But because of this... disease... that plagues her mind, sometimes I am forced to hate her.

First of all, in case you're wondering, NO I CAN NOT MOVE OUT. I am fourteen years old and there are laws here where I live.

But here's the deal:

My mother is from South Korea. Her English never thrived, to say the least, but she can speak the language (albeit with errors). She met my dad in college, and she married him and had two kids - my younger brother, who I will refer to as "G", and myself, "A".

I would hazard a guess as to say I'm smart. No, not a genius or anything on that level - just smart. I have looked at symptoms of many different mental illnesses, and I have come to the conclusion that my mother has paranoid schizophrenia.

Her symptoms are:

- extreme paranoia
ex.: She believes that there are multiple conspiracies to take her life, to make her miserable, and to ruin my brother and I. She will change her emails and phone numbers frequently, and she will mutter things about how our doctors are drug dealers and such. She has pegged my father's family as "evil", and she has called me a cow, *****, and slut for not believing in the NWO (New World Order) when she told me to.

And now she's saying that her sister's husband might have killed her sister.

-violent tendencies
The doors in our home tend to be either cracked, broken, or not able to be locked. Why, you ask? Because in some cases, my mother attacked those doors with a knife - in others, she has banged her fists on the door repeatedly until we were forced to open them. In rare cases when we still refused to unlock the doors and let her in, she has broken them down and "fixed" them so that we can't lock them.

She has pulled my hair out, thrown heavy objects at me, thrown verbal insult after verbal insult at me, and she's even told me to go and kill myself or join a nunnery.

I will admit - my temper is not the best (an understatement), and I can be snarky (or, as she calls it, I will talk back), but she is just... I don't know.

-hostility

She has made numerous phone calls and texts to my father and his family, as well as her own family. It has gotten to the point where her family is starting to completely shun her (blocking her calls, threatening with the police, etc.). My father's family just refuses to deal with her, but she has harassed them by pounding on their door very loudly at all hours of the day when she wants to talk to them.

She also swears a lot in both Korean and English. It's scary, being on the receiving end - let me tell you.

-suicidal thoughts

She constantly states that she will kill herself, and then perhaps my brother and I. It is, quite frankly, ridiculous. It's gotten to the point where I will tune her out if she even starts.

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My mother is a clean freak, however, which seems to be unusual among schizophrenic patients, but I guess that exceptions exist for everything.

When calm and controlled, she is a wonderful mother. But when in the grips of whatever she has, it's miserable. I've considered running away or joining the nuns, but ultimately I think I'm going to be staying here.

She constantly threatens to "leave us with our dad" or "spend all of HER money before going to Korea or killing herself". My father is the only one who works in our family - I assure you. She just spends.

It's starting to take a toll on my family, which is why I'm even asking this question in the first place.

I'm begging someone who knows what they're talking about to help me here. It's getting really frustrating when your mother's talking about ways to kill you, as well as how the world is out to get her.

Help? Please? Anyone? I'm perfectly serious, and I'm not a troll, which you'll have to take on face value for now.

Thank you.

[emek]

You seem very mature for your age, something quite rare in this generation.

Anyways, my suggestion for the wellness of not only your mother, but your entire family
is to notify an outside party of this behavior. Tell them everything you wrote here.

When I say outside party, I mean a mental health professional or at least an adult who could contact one. If you look online, you should find mental health services in your area, many of which have emergency intervention services. Try giving them a call as soon as you can to discuss the situation, because this is NOT ok!

You're mother is sick, even if it's not an all the time thing, there is still something wrong. Once you are able to speak with a professional (or talk with someone who will do it for you if you're not comfortable doing so) please be sure to be very detailed, give examples of her behavior just like you did here. And don't let anyone say "we'll get back to you with this" or anything like that, this is something that needs to be addressed NOW!

You mentioned that she can be a great mother when she's not suffering under these symptoms. That's great, but what I'm sure what would be ideal for you, your mother, and your family is to have her like that all the time, right? Medication CAN help!

You can do this, you can be the one to help her, as I'm assuming she doesn't like behaving like that.

I surely hope you will take my suggestions and contact your nearest office of mental health and get moving in the right direction with her health. Best of luck!